We know how difficult it can be to look after someone with dementia. You can research all you want, search the web, and buy all of the books. However, there are some situations you can’t foresee and seem impossible to prepare for. Luckily, we have discovered the common mistakes caregivers make when looking after one with dementia. Here are the following 5 dementia care mistakes to avoid.
Do Not Argue
One of the 5 dementia care mistakes to avoid is arguing with those with dementia. This is easier said than done. A person with dementia sees the world very differently from the caregiver, so it is best to be agreeable and relaxed when talking to them. If they say they haven’t eaten all day when you know that they have just finished lunch, there is no point in contradicting them. You will have to learn to let things go and avoid tension by stepping into their world. Try to listen to what they are saying, even if it doesn’t necessarily make sense from your perspective.
Do Not Assume
Another mistake many caregivers make is that they treat those with dementia the same. The trajectory of dementia is very different for each person. There are guidelines to consider, but everyone has different experiences, coping mechanisms, and personality traits. Take these into account and enjoy their individuality! Do not assume. Always stay positive, verbally, and non-verbally!
Those with Dementia aren't Children
This is very important to take into account. Please do not treat those with dementia like infants. Yes, you may need to talk slowly, but this doesn’t mean you should talk down to them. They must keep socializing without being patronized. Acknowledge that their intelligence has not diminished, just their ability to understand you and express themselves verbally.
Do Not Mention Problematic Topics
Asking whether someone remembers something is very easy to do but can be very embarrassing and frustrating for the person with dementia. Stick to simple subjects or topics that they bring up themselves and be very aware of mentioning anyone who has died. This may be a passing comment for you, but for them, it could bring back all the emotions as if they had only just found out for the first time. Try not to say “calm down” instead be reassuring and understanding without disagreeing or aggravating the situation.
It can be hard to let go, but it is essential for both your well-being and your loved one’s safety and health. In the later stages of dementia they may need constant company and supervision, which you can not provide. At Courtyard Manor, we offer all-inclusive nursing care on the floor 24 hours a day to provide care to those with dementia. No matter what stage of dementia your loved one is at, get in touch with our friendly team! We can discuss options with you and advise on the best care option for your specific situation. Feel free to reach out to us today! We would love to hear from you. You can also visit our website to learn more!